What does Love mean to You?

Hey guys, you might have read many books on love and have a certain meaning but sometimes  we don't understand what is love, dating, or attraction?  What is your opinion about love? What is your perception of love, and how did you form that perception so far? Perhaps you are single and looking for your special woman. Or you have a girlfriend and experiencing the love and want to get better at the love life. In either of the cases, you must be doing many things to get a girlfriend or a better lover, your girlfriend. But have you ever asked yourself what exactly does love mean between a couple (in the context of male-female dynamics)?

        Have you ever asked what exactly does love mean to you? How much does love help to become a better person vs. drag you down? Or Makes you much happier person? Is love a need, a want, a desire, or a must in life? And what is the drama that you are watching around your society and the world? Perhaps you are wondering what I am going to tell you about this. Yeah, I am going to share with you my most important insights that can help you to guide your love life and women as you read my upcoming posts. Let us first understand some conventional notions that we usually notice in society. The sad part is these notions are so strong that we believe them as correct at the subconscious level. 

Such as 
Love is divine.Love is unique.
Love is  beautiful and it happens once in a lifetime.
There is only one person that was born for you and you will find her or him when the right time comes or the destiny's plan. 
When you are in love, tell the feeling to the women you are in love within a few minutes of interacting with her.
Be open and express your feelings with her.
You find true love rarely.
Die for true love If you love a woman indeed, you will even ready to die for her.
The attraction is temporary, and love is forever.
You are unfortunate if a woman does not love you.
If you are in love, you have miraculous power, and you can do wonders in the world. 
Wow! Great Notions. 

My question is—how many of these beliefs did help you to get the woman you want? 
Did these beliefs help you to become a better person in some way? 
These idealistic beliefs are one of the key reasons why most men fail with women. 

I learned the fact in a hard way about these beliefs from my own experience and experiences of others whom I know. But the reality is often unnoticed by your naked eye and unknown to your conscious mind. You cannot see the truth as society influences you continuously. The result—you struggle for very things that should be naturally available to you. Sometimes, you need a new guru who pushes you towards the right path  that your naked eye and conscious mind cannot see. 
   Today, wherever you are, you are no different from the reference group or environment you belong to. My Take: Love, dating, attraction, or marriage is a different form of the human mating process. You may call the process love, dating, a formal marriage, or just casual sex. All these are various ways to reach a means of the human mating process. You are at this very phase of your life and are ready for mating. You mate with your opposite sex and reproduce, and your genes survive and pass onto the next generation. That is the deal and the very purpose of love or dating or marriage. Apart from that reproductive process, you will also get happiness & pleasure physically, mentally, and emotionally while you love or date or mate with your partner.

We all know that our human species started our journey some thousands of years ago. Today you and I live among approx — 8 billion people on this earth. Over thousands of years, our human evolution have progressed massively. Inventions and innovations that helped us lead a comfortable life. During the process, we had to consume massive information that has a tremendous influence on the way we live, behave, or follow specific belief systems. Today, wherever you are, you are no different from the reference group or environment you were brought up. For instance, look at the life-cycle of a human being. Each human being goes through the same phases in his or her life cycle: After a man born, he would bring up, during the process gets educated, gets a job or might not go to a college or does laborious tasks or do some work. Then, he gets married to a woman he loves or arranged by his family. 

Then, he has children, bring them up, send them to school or college, and make them independent adults and get them married. Then, he sees their grandchildren and their progress. Once the man reaches his old age, his life expires, and the human being cycle ends. Every man goes through these same phases in his life. But the ways each man chooses to reach those depends on the reference group or environment that he belongs to. Irrespective of a man's status, he goes through all these phases in his life — for instance, a millionaire and daily laborer. A man does not need to be a millionaire to go through these phases. The secret to a better life is to design the phases of our lives in a way we want and live a better and happy life with the women we want. Why am I telling this philosophy? “Could a laborer ever be happy in his life if he starts comparing himself with a millionaire?” He can never be happy. Sadly, that is what society conditioned us to do in our life. Our environment continuously pushes us to compare ourselves with others who have more things. A man does not have to be a millionaire to go through all the phases in his life. Isn't it?  

           Well here I take a break. I will get back to you with few more details that you can check in upcoming posts. Let me know in comment section what you think and share your ideas that can be useful for all of us. And I will keep me motivated to come up with some more knowledge. Mean while you check some links here highlighted and see that interests you.