Guide Your love to Become Successful with women

 
Do you like stories?  like you, many men Raj was a college student and average guy. His parents, friends, relatives used to appreciate his behavior a lot. He was excellent in his studies too. Further in life, he got an excellent job at one of the reputed multinational company. 

  He was a reserved minded person by his nature and was a very down to earth and polite guy. He however bit shy type of guy had a problem attracting any girl. In college, he used to interact with a few of his female college mates, and most of them used to say, nice guy. But none of them was interested in hanging out with him. 

  Raj remained single in the college days. He thought he would get his dream girl once he gets a good job. But to his misery, his dream did not turn up in reality. He passed years hoping one day would find the girl of his dream.

 Finally, that someday came, and he saw this dream girl. He approached and interacted with her. Initially, things went well for a couple of weeks. Then, the girl began to avoid him. Raj became emotionally insecure and expressed to her what he feels about her.   

The more Raj tried to convince her how he loves her deeply,  the more she started avoiding him and gone forever. He became upset. He is a nice, reserved man. 

    Everyone in society says a girl should be lucky enough to get a man like Raj. He is a perfect person. 

  He was distressed and used to think the entire day about what went wrong. Why girl says she wants a sincere, nice, and approval seeking man but when she finds someone she avoids.

    The most frustrating fact for Raj was main-stream advice. When He was in college, all people advised him to focus on his career. As most men do. He did exactly.

   The mainstream advice is - if you become successful in your career, women like you automatically. Raj became successful in his career, but no girl of his choice would want to date him.

    After some years, he saw another girl, he followed the same things guided by society. And he failed again.  He used to believe that love happens automatically and waited for years to get his dream girl. Later, he realized that he only wasted his precious years of life by following meaningless social lessons.

     If believed love happens automatically, if love happens to you automatically, you need not do anything. Your dream girl should come automatically to you, propose to you, and start loving. Wow! Is it that easy guys? 

What I mean is you do not need to go to top-notch colleges to get high paying jobs to compete with other men to impress any women. Being nice, buying gifts,  or taking to expensive restaurants. 

Men, do all the things I said. If love happens automatically, why a man is required to do something to impress a woman? 

Believe it or not, most men do something to impress a woman. Then, why don't you do the correct thing- with a purpose - to get the results you want to speed up the process?  In short, understand that attracting a woman is just a skill like learning how to type key-board, learning to drive a car. You need to go step by step to reach your maximum potential. You have to learn a woman's mind, learn to approach, converse, and take things forward with her. 

Let's take an example, The first one, you think love happens automatically and the second is you guide your love. 

   Scenario 1 Love Happens automatically

If a man like Raj thinks love happens automatically to him, the sad part is that he does not take any action to get the woman he wanted. The worst part is he hopes and waits until love finds him automatically.  

As now love happens automatically, now he is dependent on the woman to make love happen. If a woman he likes--likes him, he is lucky. If a woman he wants- not likes him- he has to wait again. 

He has no control over the results. He will become reactive to what happens in his life. And he will become frustrated with love.

Scenario 2 Guide Your Love

If a man thinks that love does not happen automatically to him, the good thing he does is he takes the required action to get the woman he wanted. 

 Which means he has control and he acts on his own. He learns the skills he needs to attract that woman.  He seeks help from the men who have been already successful with women. He learns, understands, and implements the same things they did and become successful. 

Hence, if you guide your love, you pursue your happiness.  

If you can take action, think proactively, you have control over most of the things in life. You do not need someone to make you happy. Others will be embraced your presence because you making them happy. That is all humans are searching for in life.